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Having a mind-blowing orgasm every time you and your partner do the hot and heavy is every woman’s dream! But if you rarely hit the big O, you’re not the only one wondering what’s wrong.
Forget what you’ve seen in porn. Research reveals most women cannot climax just with intercourse. In fact, a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that 81.6% of women do not feel sexual pleasure from vaginal intercourse alone. This is because the clitoris is located outside the vagina and is not directly stimulated during intercourse. For most women to experience pleasure, the clitoris must be stimulated before, during, or after intercourse.
There is, however, hope! The earth-shattering climax you’ve longed for can still be yours if you’re one of the ones missing it. Here are some of the best-kept secrets to remember if you want a mind-blowing orgasm all the time, based on research shared by OMGYES.
1. Shallowing
A whopping 84% of women claimed to have deeper pleasure through “shallowing.” This act involves controlling the penetrative touch to just the inner entryway of the vagina instead of full penetration.
In an interview with Glamour, Vulva Talks creator Cecile Gasnault explains why this sexual act will give you a toe-curling climax. “The entrance of the vagina is richly innervated. It contains 90% of the vagina’s nerve endings, so its stimulation can feel very pleasurable – be it with a partner or solo. So it’s worth paying some attention to it.”
If you want to try shallowing, Gasnault suggested beginning by positioning the penis, fingers or a sex toy at the entrance of the vagina. Then press it gently but avoid going all the way in with it. Close your eyes and enjoy the sensation fully. You may do small movements if you want to explore.
2. Rocking
If you find thrusting in and out boring, this technique could finally help you reach your orgasmic pleasure.
The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy study found that 76% of women enjoy “rocking” the base of their partner’s penis or sex toy. This act allows it to rub against the clitoris during penetration as it remains inside instead of moving in and out. This act provides direct clitoral stimulation, which is often necessary for women to reach orgasm. This stimulation is also beneficial for men as it increases the pleasure they experience during sex.
But remember, the crucial element of rocking is constant and uninterrupted penetration. So instead of thrusting, their penis, finger, or sex toy stays inside while you rock your body back and forth to stimulate your clitoris. As a result, your ultimate pleasure lies in your hands.
3. Pairing
The study also revealed that 70% of women discovered extreme pleasure when they or their partner matched full penetration with clitoral stimulation. To make the most of full penetration, take advantage of the potential for simultaneous pleasure by stimulating your clitoris – whether with your fingers or a sex toy – for an unforgettable and intense orgasm. Try this technique while experimenting with various sexual positions like Spread Eagle, the Launchpad, or your trusted Missionary. You may find yourself screaming like a porn star while your partner manually stimulates your clitoris as they penetrate.
4. Angling
Try the angling technique if you want a surefire way to reach the climax you’ve been yearning for. The angling technique involves adjusting the angle of your body and/or your partner’s body during penetration. This can help to increase friction and direct stimulation to sensitive areas, like the clitoris or G-spot, which can lead to more intense and satisfying orgasms. According to the study, as much as 88% of women achieve the most sexual pleasure during penetration through angling.
You may also place your hips higher to enhance your sexual pleasure. But some women also swear by angling their hips lower, which helps them climax faster.
To find your preferred angle during sex you may place a pillow on your back while doing the missionary position to help tilt your pelvis higher.
Gotta Work for It!
The study proved that mere thrusting is not enough to give you mind-boggling sex. You and your partner should explore different techniques to enhance the sensation during penetration to know which one suits you best. This is because different techniques stimulate various body parts, triggering unique sensations and responses. Experimenting with other techniques can help you discover which is most pleasurable for you and your partner.
Finally, always pay attention to your clitoris! This tiny pleasure center should be your main priority while doing the deed with your partner or while you pleasure yourself. This is so you can always have the big O because you deserve nothing less!
