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A whole host of fascinating and wildly successful women all wrapped up in one jewel of a woman. This may be the best way to describe Coralyn Jewel, an acknowledged leader in the swing community who also makes waves as a bestselling author, award-winning adult star, product inventor, and the host of a YouTube show in which she interviews other prominent figures in the adult industry, including the author of this article! Having started her life’s journey as an Olympic hopeful skater and poised to bring her life’s story to the silver screen, Coralyn Jewel is a pioneer, an endless fascinator, and a down-to-earth, funny gal who acts as a leader and a conduit in the adult industry.
Coralyn, you started out as an Olympic hopeful skater and star athlete. What first drew you to the sport, and what were some of your milestones?
I moved from South Africa when I was three years old, and according to my dad, he took me to the ice-skating rink at the local mall, and I was hooked from then on. As I got older, I knew that I was not going to make it as a single skater, so I became involved as a pair skater and went to nationals to find a partner. Upon finding a partner, I moved to Wisconsin, and we then applied to represent South Africa in the Olympics as they did not have a pair skating team, and I still had dual citizenship. That was the goal and the plan until an injury changed everything.
How did you get started in adult modeling?
In 2008 when the housing market crashed, I was running a mobile fitness company for children out in California, and all of my home daycares were losing their enrollment. My husband came home one day and said to me that he heard women sell their underwear online and make quite a good living at it. At first, I thought he was crazy, but the next day I researched it, and by that evening, when he came home from work, I had bought a domain, taken photographs in panties, built a website, uploaded an ad to Craigslist and I had made $450 in sales my first day. And that’s how it all began.
How did you get started in the swinging community, and what inspired you to become a leader and organizer in the field?
Being involved in selling panties led to custom videos and webcamming. A client requested a video of my husband and me having sex. My husband agreed to it under one rule: a stranger must film. We posted an ad on Craigslist and met a couple in San Diego, which happened to be on our 10-year wedding anniversary. We had drinks with them first, lots of drinks, and then went back to the hotel where we actually got married and tried to film. However, all four of us were so drunk because we were so nervous, so it did not happen. The following day my husband said to me he thought it was kind of hot having people in the room with us, and that’s how we embarked on the swinging community.
I am divorced because of the lifestyle, and many people ask me, why would you stay in the lifestyle, let alone run your own community? My answer is simple. I like the openness and the non-judgmental people. I don’t feel like you have to hide anything, and you can say and dress how you want. However, I have since 2012 witnessed many marriages and relationships come to an end (in the swinging community). I have seen people come in and out of this lifestyle for all the wrong reasons. Therefore, I felt that by teaching from my own experiences as a participant and club owner, I could maybe help people embark on this journey to their path of embracing their sexuality without making some of the big mistakes that I have made as well as seen others make.
Your formidable presence is everywhere throughout the swinging community. Please tell us more about your clubs, parties, and related writings, including any fun anecdotes you’d like to share.
When I was first offered the opportunity to run my own swingers club, I knew nothing about hosting an event. I only knew about being an attendee. However, after speaking with a gentleman that was introduced to me from a club that I was dancing at in Palm Springs, I was convinced that with his assistance, business expertise, and financial help, I would be able to put it together. In July 2012, we rented a 10000 sq ft mansion, and eight weeks later, we opened our doors. The club is still going. However, we no longer have that location due to a competitive club causing issues for us. But I continued to run the community by offering bar takeovers, free meet and greets, and hotel events.
What inspired you to write your book, and what response has it garnered? And tell us about your upcoming movie!
Once I divorced in 2010, my life went a little bit, let’s just say opposite and in turmoil from where I originally was planning to take my future. I found myself struggling financially, which led me to model for extra work, which led to dancing, then a job as a director in the adult industry, and eventually making a move to performer.
The best way that I describe to people when I host seminars and I do my coaching program is, “that when life throws you a curve ball, you don’t always know which direction to take it, and most of the time, we take it the wrong direction. However, I believe that all the curve balls life has thrown me have brought me full circle to where I need to be;” helping others in the adult industry who are attempting to pursue a career, or couples or singles involved in alternative lifestyle relationships or kink and need guidance or assistance.
So how the book came about through word-of-mouth, with me telling people my story and a journalist approaching me at the AVN awards insisting that my story needed to be shared.
I definitely never saw myself being an author, but after two years of him working on my project, he gave the book back to me and said you need to finish this book–the story needs to come from you, and so I took back the project, completed the book, published it, and it became an International best seller.
About a year later, I was approached by someone on Facebook suggesting that I turn my book into a documentary. Again, although I have a degree in theatrical production, I never thought that I would embark on such a project. The documentary is now in editing, although I am seeking someone who can help me move the process along a little faster at an affordable rate, as I would like to have my documentary released before I’m in an old age home.
Speaking of movies, you have become a prominent adult film star. What do you like best about this industry, and again–share any anecdotes! Tell us about your award noms!
I love working in the adult industry. I love being on set, and I really enjoy performing. I have yet to have a bad experience, and everyone I’ve worked with has been just an absolute pleasure. I have made so many amazing friends in the industry and at the adult expos. I’m happy to say that many of them are my 2nd family to me.
Since releasing my book, I did not realize how it would affect my career and my life. There have been positives as well as negatives. I am, most of the time, very overwhelmed, and to say I have a lot on my plate is an understatement. My financial situation is still in turmoil. I guess I can say one thing I’m not good at is handling finances. However, since releasing my book, I went on to pursue my writing, and I am now a contributing freelance writer to Pleazeme, Sexperts, Kinkly, and KINK Queens.
I also decided to pursue my master’s certification as a sexologist, and I travel to various adult industry events nationwide, hosting seminars. My two main topics are “Embrace Your Sexuality” and “Living Your True Life for You.” I also have been a guest coach on various platforms hosting webinars, and I now offer consulting/coaching regarding Working in the adult industry and/or becoming involved in the swinger Lifestyle community. In addition, once again, it was suggested to me to start a podcast, so now I am in season 3 of EMBRACE, hosted by Coralyn Jewel.
This has led to a number of nominations, such as being voted among the top 100 sexologists on Pleazeme, I was nominated for 2022 AVN Best Adult Podcast, 2021 AVN Hottest MILF, 2021 X-Biz nomination for Best MILF Clip Artist, and ASN Lifestyle magazine for Best Sex Educator and Best Sex Educator Website.
I am almost done with my 2nd book, and I just need to find the time to read through it, finalize the details and get it off to editing.
Tell us about your sensual product line and website!
It was the suggestion from someone that I should have a CBD lubricant product. I knew nothing about CBD, so I began my research and two years later developed a CBD intimate massage oil product trademarked with my name.
What’s next for Coralyn Jewel?
LORD, A VACATION! But in all seriousness, my ultimate goal with everything is to travel and offer seminars for women and men to empower themselves, embrace sexuality and share my knowledge and experiences to help others learn from my mistakes.
In addition to performing, content creating for my various subscription platforms, coaching, seminars, podcast, and releasing my 2nd book and documentary hopefully soon. I still run my Lifestyle events, and I am a wedding planner, voted five years in a row couple’s choice award winner for Wedding Wire. And I didn’t think that I had enough on my plate, so I decided to develop a lifestyle swinger’s jewelry line, which is now available on my website. And I have an Etsy store.
I was most recently offered a position with Zenity Arts, and I am undergoing their training program. Without getting into too much detail, think of it as a Tantric trainer on four shots of expresso with a patented, trademarked technique of physical exercises and understanding of the anatomy to enhance sexual enjoyment for both men and women.
What message do you have for Scandalous Women who face sexism and slut-shaming?
I would think that here we are entering 2023, we would have made such progress in this country with embracing sexuality and encouraging people to accept others for their choices, gender identity, kink, fetish, fantasy, or whatever it may be.
However, I feel like for every step we take forward, we take two steps back. I encourage more people like myself, my guests, authors, podcasters, therapists, performers, etc., to step forward and be proud of who you are. Be proud of what you do. Be proud of your job, your accomplishments, and your courage to live your life the way you want.
I often refer to the saying, “I shoulda, woulda, coulda syndrome,” when I speak about how many people we come across in our lifetime who say they wish they had left their job sooner or wish they had left a toxic relationship sooner, but they stayed for the financial security or the sake of the children. Now they fear starting all over again and think it’s too late. I encourage people not to be a part of that syndrome. “It’s never too late to take back control of your own life as you only have one life to live. It’s time you live it your way.”
